Get your ex back What you should and should not do

Published: 02nd March 2011
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There are several things you should do to get back with your ex, just as there are several things that you shouldn't do. And what you should do is as equally important as what you shouldn't do. In this article I will offer some tips on what you should do to get your ex back, and how to avoid the mistakes of what you should not do.

#1 Should
You should keep in contact with your ex if you are wanting to get back together. Keep your line of communication open. If you do not keep in touch with your ex he/she is going to think that you have moved on and are not interested in getting back together. Keeping your ex informed on what's going on in your life will show that you still care about them, and still want him/her to be a part of your life.

#1 Should Not
You should not smother your ex. Keep your contact casual and subtle. Too much contact can become irritating and can cause your ex to move further away from you. Your ex will start felling that you are spying on them or stalking them if you are constantly hounding them.

#2 Should
Remember significant dates, such as birthdays and holidays. If you want to get back with your ex remembering their birthday and major holiday's should be obvious, but it seems to be overlooked sometimes. Your ex is most likely going to be expecting to here from you, a birthday or major holiday is no time to disappoint them if you are trying to get back together.

#2 Should Not
Do not call your ex using every holiday or event as an excuse to call your ex. National Secretary's day is not a good reason to call your ex. Do not buy extravagant expensive gifts for your ex. It makes them feel pressured. Keep your Birthday and Holiday gifts simple but thoughtful.

#3 Should
Keep in contact with your friends, particularly if they are mutual friends of both you and your ex. Keep yourself upbeat and happy. Show your friends that you are doing just fine, and still have a positive outlook on getting back with your ex. Say only good things about your ex when in the company of friends. If you can not convince your friends that you want to get back together with your ex, your certainly not going to convince your ex.

#3 Should Not
Don't constantly whine to your friends about how much you miss your ex. Reassure them that you do still love your ex, then leave it at that. Don't talk negatively about your ex to your friends. Remember they are your ex's friend's also, or may be someday.

#4 Should
Use this time to reflect on what caused the break up, and what you can do to prevent it from happening again. Many people don't even know why they broke up. This is a powerful step in getting back together with your ex, if they see that you understand what the break up was over, and how you can keep it from happening again, they are more open to the possibility of getting back together.

#4 Should Not
Do not blame your ex for everything. Even if the break up was over something your ex did. Except some of the responsibility of what caused the break up. In EVERY SINGLE break up both of you are part of the blame. At some point you both had the ability to avoid the break up. So forget about pointing blame and work on preventing the problem from ever happening again. It couldn't of been too severe or you wouldn't want to get back together with your ex.

#5 Should
Court your ex again. Go back to the beginning and get back together with your ex as if you just met them and would like to get to know them better. Show yourself as someone who wants to get together with them, not someone who wants to get BACK together with them. Show them that you still love them and that your not just used to them.

#5 Should Not
Do not forget why you broke up. Do not give the impression that whatever caused the break up doesn't matter now. At some point you are going to have to dicuss the reason(s) for the break up. Make sure you can show your ex you have a very clear understanding of what happened, and how to avoid it from ever happening again.

This is all a starting point for you when you begin your steps in getting back together. Keep following my articles and you will get a complete step by step plan for getting your ex back. Most break up's are not really that serious and the steps in this article will work fine. For relationships that break up over more serious matter, they can be saved also. For those keep reading my articles or contact me directly and I'll be more than happy to help you. You can find my contact information in the resource box

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